The Road to Resilience

2Resilience – an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.
Resilience can be learned or developed. 🙂

10 Ways to Build Resilience.

  1. Make positive connections. Participating in groups that interest you (civic, faith-based, interest) can provide you with social support and help you reclaim hope. Making new friends or maintaining positive relationships in your life will help you feel like you have a more balanced base and you are not teetering on the top of a pin. Learning to ask for than accept help and support strengthens your resilience as well.
  2. Maintain a hopeful outlook. Having an optimistic attitude will help you to see the good things that do happen in your life. Try to visualize what you want rather than worrying about what you fear.
  3. Look for opportunities to learn more about yourself. Many people who have suffered real tragedies in their lives also find they have found hidden strengths and have a heightened appreciation for life. If you are able to see what you have gained in each situation that you have been in, you will strengthen your self-esteem and self-worth.
  4. Avoid viewing problems as impossible. Stressful thing happen. You can choose how you want to respond to them. Try to become aware of the little things you can do that help you to feel better.
  5. Develop a positive view of yourself.  Trust your instincts. Nurture and develop your confidence in yourself to solve problems. This builds resilience.
  6. Accept that change is a part of life. If you can learn to accept that some situations can not be changed, this can help you to focus more of your attention on the things you really can change.
  7. Keep things in perspective. Try to see hardships or stressful situations in the bigger picture to help you avoid blowing the situation out of proportion. You can also ask yourself “How much will this matter a year from now?” to help find that perspective.
  8. Move towards your goals. Make realistic goals with lots of benchmarks that lead to that goal. Every small success helps you reach the goals that you set for yourself. Stop and enjoy each accomplishment.
  9. Take clear actions. If you can, act on difficult situations as often as possible, this can help reduce the stress you feel while holding on each issue. Try to take positive actions rather than detaching from the problems and wishing they would just go away.
  10. Take care of yourself. This is a BIG one. Pay attention to  your own needs and feelings. Do things that you enjoy and find relaxing. Taking good care of yourself will help keep your mind and body strong and more ready to deal with stressful situations.

6 responses to “The Road to Resilience

  1. Well said Heather – this is all great advice for EVERYONE, whether they are trauma survivors or not.x


  2. Really great blog. It was good to see that I do many of the things listed. It has certainly helped in my healing.


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