The word gentle is found in the Oxford dictionary with the following meanings if used as an adjective..
Kind. Sensitive, Tender. Compassionate.Patient.
Being gentle with others is something most of us seem good at.
If someone does something wrong, we either don’t say anything at all as to not embarrass them or we gently explain the correct way to do it.
If someone is hurt, we show them compassion and understanding.
If someone is slow we are almost always patient (even if our insides are screaming HURRY UP!!!).
Now what if we shake things up and not think about being gentle to others but rather to ourselves?
When you make a mistake, do you beat yourself up for being so stupid?
When you do something wrong do you feel exasperated and assume that you will simply NEVER get things right?
If you are doing something too slowly for your own liking, do you get frustrated with yourself and try to push yourself to go faster even if you just can’t?
I personally offer compassion to mostly anyone. If others show up late, can’t do something they said they could, don’t feel up to talking or going out with me on a certain day, are triggered and need a good venting session? I am accepting and kind. If I did any of those things? I do not meet myself with the same kindness.
Maya Angelou had a quote that said “When you know better, do better”. The point being that we can not fault ourselves for things we do when we truly know no different. No better. When we learn more and understand more, we do better. We need to make this enough.
Can you imagine a day where you don’t put yourself down (even jokingly)?
What about a day with compassion for your own shortcomings?
How would it feel to celebrate all your positive traits?
Don’t try to tell me that you aren’t awesome. I know that you are.
So be a gentle, loving and kind person but be that to yourself as well as everyone else. Life is hard enough and there are more than enough things to bring us down. Our own selves shouldn’t be one of them.